since things "weren't so terrible" that I couldn't have waited. Well, I guess that's true- he wasn't beating me.
Bunny, Again, this is subtle way of manipulation, and is akin to beating you emotionally.
Things weren't so terrible??!?!! I'm sorry, but they were, and I am disgusted by his actions and his manipulation like this. Anyone who tries to manipulate a partner into doing things physically they are uncomfortable with, is physical abuse, in my book. Of course he is portrayed to and by his family as 'thing's are not that bad' Do you think he goes into this level of detail with them?
The facts are, he WAS beating you, emotionally and to some extent physically by the lifestyle you were living that you expressed to him you did not want to live!
Now, I would agree, it's time for Bunny to work on GAL activities, so your not sitting around the house with all this whirling in your head. But, like KL says above, if you give yourself some time and take the pressure off yourself in those quiet times as well, that will help so you can focus on you.
As far as contact, you may want to dim yourself some on contact with him, if he initiates, don't reply, don't answer the phone or txt's right away, start working things to Bunny's tune and not his.
After being in this type of relationship for so long, it's going to be hard for you to take some control back of yourself for yourself, so keep that in mind, and don't beat yourself up for how you feel during this.
Hugs again...(((((((((Bunny))))))))))
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
