? Right time for H to come home

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Libby,

You actually sound like you are doing very well and that you understand what you are dealing with.

I am glad you see the legitimate complaints and are trying to deal with them.
Some of the will actually be valid.

Talking to the MLCer about them being in MLC is usually a very difficult thing because even though they know something is wrong, they don’t want to believe it is them.

I am sorry about how he is dealing with the kids but it too is standard. Kids are something many of us struggle with still. The thought of D and what it does to them sucks, but watching the R deterioriate before your eyes is very different. It is also hard for us LBS to fathom because if they weren’t before, the kids usually become a very central part of our lives.

You actually sound like me a bit, your kids were very central to you, despite your own needs and that is a difficult hurdle to get over. But it sounds like you are finding the balance. That is definitely something I wish I had done a long time ago, but I love that I am doing it now.

Minute by minute, day by day, that is how this works.