h is in mlc, now threatening divorce...

[lost1234]

gnosis,

Thank you! i will continue reading all of the threads you sent...if when you have a few please continue with me.

I needless to say didnt sleep well last night and id like to share what i have noticed and get some opinions if i could...observations of my h...i guess what im looking for is someone who is or has gone through this...

he is unhappy

he believes it is me and home life and our marriage

tries to keep up with responsibilites but has a difficult time

tries to be dad and h but simply cant

he leaves and seems a bit happier for a short while

4 months into him being gone he is now:

showing anger and resentment

seems to always be sick or not feeling good

doesnt want to go to work

never has any time...

will pick an argument to justify leaving the situation
turns light conversation into a mountain and twists everything i say to place blame

complains of his long drives(bcause of where his parents live)

always tired


i could continue on but im sure you guys can get the point...

to me he doesnt seem any happier away than he wad here...

i plan to continue to detach but also to listen and support if i am given the chance...

am i totally wrong to say that i hope he realizes it is himself he may be unhappy with?

thanks!