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[SoldierDad]

Watcher,
here is what I am feeling about the OM, if true. I am prepared as best as I can be. I have pictured so many images in my mind about this OM touching my W, doing things to her, etc. I used to get pretty emotional about it. I don't believe that THAT would be a deal breaker, but is that really up to me anymore? I don't think so at this point. The truly difficult part is that my W, literally hates me right now, and I believe that if/when I expose her A, she WILL blame me, and then just continue with the OM as before, without any sense of remorse or guilt. I also feel that she will justify what she is doing, and will NEVER see the reality of it all-I know, I know, that isn't my problem. Once she blames me, I will merely tell her that I find it insulting that she would try to blame me for her actions, when we both know the truth, and that I will NOT accept the blame for her behavior. But I still don't believe it will have any impact on her. As a matter of fact, I think it will push her closer to OM. To be honest, when she filed, it sent a message to me that she really is unhappy. Am I the source of that unhappiness? Well, I'm made to feel that way, but I don't accept all of that blame-I played a part in it, but not ALL of it. I honestly feel that she is too far gone to ever come to her senses. She has WAY too much pride to ever admit to any wrong doing/fault in all of this. She has always been that way. Again, probably not something I need to concern myself with. Well, another day almost in the books, I think I have done ok today. I am preparing myself to the best of my abilities. I await further guidance.