True some of the changes are issues that he raised when he left and I could see that they were correct i.e controlling, not listening, not much physical contact.
On reflection I had stopped doing things for myself over the last few years as too absorbed with child rearing. Now I have taken time out for myself i.e buying new clothes, new hairstyle.
I also needed to get my body into shape as that had slipped as well and although I was aware I did nothing about it. After my wake up call I am putting these things right for me.
If H comes back he will benefit but if not I will continue to benefit in the long term.
Detaching is difficult. Some days I manage it, other days I struggle. Particularly around finances as he is getting himself into a hole. This is an issue he would never have done before he departed on his journey, but of course he is supporting us plus OW who likes to be wined and dined and have nice things. I keep working at detaching.
I've never run a marathon before so this is all very new.......
