Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

I just want to say,for the record, IF I DIDN'T HAVE A CHILD I would do a fantastic bang up job of the Plan D!!!! Seriously! Whenever I broke up with someone in the past (either he dumped me or me him) I completely got rid of all evidence of relationship, never called or emailed, and started dating. (well after a few days to weeks of mourning first) And I got over the SOBs!

I imagine I would do the same thing with my WH--would have moved out to an apartment, arranged to not be at the house at the same time when getting my stuff, and dealt with him as little as possible while mailing in the divorce papers.

Would I have done Plan B? Doubtful. NO children, less than 5 years married.

But having a baby changed everything. A baby means it isn't as easy to rip up the photos and erase the emails and throw away the DVDs CDs Gifts Furniture that reminds you of the person.
You will have some kind of relationship with the spouse for at least the next 18 years.

Oh, and I am NOT saying it is easy for others who do not have kids to rip up their memories and move on! I am just saying for me, that is the dysfunctional but effective way to deal with it:
out of sight, out of mind. And that is what I had always told WH. I mean I told him that is how I moved on from previous relationships--no staying friends, just moving on and forgetting.
I told him that I threw away as much evidence as possible. And when we split in March and I asked him for his ring in April, he wrote me a note asking me not to throw it away because he wanted to keep it to remember us. I chuckle now because he thought I was going to throw it away--he remembered what I told him about "Out of Sight Out of Mind."

Is this why he makes it hard for me to keep him out of sight?