Hi Chel, We're at similar spots in the journey-I'm just a bit behind. I suspect a D will happen as H is getting the ball rolling quickly. He acts upbeat around me and seems surprised that I'm not all chipper and happy!
The energy is better with H gone, but he's come back almost daily to help shuttle kids or something so its not like out of sight/out of mind. I think I would heal more quickly if it was.
Having gone through tis separation once already this year, I have to say it easier the second time around. I've cried but not as much. I certainly am not obsessively focused on H as much, maybe since there is no OW this time..I'm focusing more on myself and getting me and the girls through this emotionally intact.
And there is the key(at least one). Focusing on being kind to yourself. Focusing on YOUR feelings rather than wondering about how H is, what H is feeling/thinking/doing...that is what wll set you free, so to speak.
Think about what you can learn from this, what worked for you, what didn't...think about things from your perspective..it helps, I think.
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
