SO I thought it was getting better and in typical DB fashion he pulls way back. I texted him that I had chance toget cheap tix through my workfor his favorite team--did he want to go with me or take some of his friends. He calls and says no he has his office party on Sat night and would want to go down the night before to the game and cant. (it is only 2 hours away for a Sunday afternoon game). SO I teased him about was he going to tie one on at his office party (OW works for him)
Probably should not have said any more THen asked him if he wanted to come over on THurs for dinner as he had last 2 weeks--no he was going to the local businessman's Christmas party and no he was busy or too tired other nights. Drove by his office--he and Ow cars there. HE Called me to check if I had RSVP to the party nxt Sat at his friends house (he invited me to go with him) and casually mentioned he was at his office putting up Christmas decorations--no mention of Ow. Tonight i lost it and drove by his apartment--her car was there watching his team on Monday night football.
Last Friday I overheard him tell telephone counsellor he was trying to give up Ow and knew if was the right thing to do. But he has also said he has tried to break it off several times over the 2 years he kept the A a secret and he keeps initiating it.Says he knows he could be happy with her for the rest of his life--they share so much in common and its not physical but more how comfortable and relaxed and easy it is to be around her.Says I have changed and he actually said why isnt it enough that i have shown him howmuch I love him by my behavior change but he still wants to be around her.
What do I do? No contact no call? Let him initiat all contact. I feel like I cant get off the roller coaster. He seems incapable of staying away from her.
