Here's a soft 2x4 for you Gardner. Don't apologize for working on yourself. That's a 'Nice Guy' Trait.
I can't speak for others, but you never need apologize to me for working on and recognizing issues for yourself and your situation. I am proud to witness and be around so many people doing such hard work on themselves, there MR, there children, lives, and others around them with such compassion. You can't see it, but I just toasted you with a fine Smithwicks Ale, and I salute all the others here as well. If you don't partake in libations like that, raise a glass of whatever you have for yourself in recognition of all that hard work you have already done as well, and to a more positive future!
Thanks, iwitw. I am proud to witness this group - and contribute and receive - as well. I don't imbibe, but just finished off tonight's O'Doul's Amber Non-Alcoholic in a toast to you!
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac