Gotta Keep Trying 2

[sandi2]

I never felt alone. In fact, it didn't really occur to me that I didn't have a "date" for the party while I was there.

People who feel confident do not need a date in order to feel like they fit in with the party. I think it says a lot of good things about you!

It may be different for men, IDK, but I know a lot of women who won't even go to the mall by themselves.....much less anywhere else. I suppose there are some occassions that I would feel weird being without somebody else (don't like eating alone in public).

GIMA, I'm so glad you keep giving your all to encourage people here on the board. I hope you and Mrs. GIMA will have happy holidays and that next year will be a great one.

[givingitmyall]

Thank you Sandi. I would be in such a worse place without folks like you, Coach, Greek, Dia, Puppy, Thinker, and so many others.

I am guardedly optimistic the new year will see my M improve, but I know I will have a great new year no matter what happens.

Much like Thinker, the main demon I seem to be fighting now is the one that wants to turn me into a WAS. I'm stubborn, but do not have an endless supply of patience.

[givingitmyall]

EB,

I'm just trying to be the neew never lose my temper, humorous, kid loving, helping, mentally healthy H.

On a more practical note, I'm just trying to be thoughtful and caring for no other reason than I want to. If I am making some hot tea for myself, I make some for her as well. I put on my iPod with loud music and grab a vacuum to help her out - it is OUR house I'm helping to clean. I have conversations with her that allow her to talk about things in which she's interested. Jokes help too-man, do they help.

But the key is I do these things not to score points, but simply b/c I want to.

[Gardener]

Gima,
Been real busy with wintergig and am falling behind (except on my own thread since there's been so much traffic, there.)
How are ya, Buddy? I'll read back some and catch up tomorrow night if i can (though I have a lot to prepare for Wednesday's mediator session).

[givingitmyall]

Gardener and everyone,

I'm afraid its a sad night at the GIMA household. Too long a story to post right now (will tomorrow) but it turns out when I heard W say she would go to MC and that reconciliation was a possibility, what she actually meant was "I'm only going to MC for co-parenting.". Yeah.

So, I will be canceling the MC appointment and it appears we are headed for D. Don't see any other option at this point.

I am disappointed, but I'm ok. All my worry/concern right now is for the kids.

[Gardener]

Sorry.
Hugs and prayers for my friend.

[givingitmyall]

Thanks buddy. I'll take all of those I can get.

[iwantittowork]

GIMA,

I am saying a prayer for you, and sending my thoughts your way.

I'd like to tell you to listen to nothing she says at this time, but you have been better at this than me.

Should you cancel the MC, or at least try and go to it, just so you know that you truly have 'givinityourall'???

[givingitmyall]

Thanks IWITW. Where W is right now, not sure C is going to do any good. And, I am tired of investing my emotional capital in a loosing investment.

[motherof3]

So sorry GIMA. Boy, I have been there too. H only went to our 2nd MC session to find out the best way to break the news of separation to our kids. It was a very humbling experience.

You are in my prayers. And remember that we are all here for you.

(((GIMA)))