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[awest1217]

Tonight was another great night! H was at the house when I got there. He was going to shovel the driveway, but although there is snow, nothing is sticking just yet. We had a good time just talking and relaxing. He talked about things he has learned as I discussed what I found out happened at my family's thanksgiving (let's just say I am glad I wasn't there). He said he has learned that happiness does not come from stuff and to get rid of somethings once in a while like old clothes you can't fit or are nasty. Also Friday he talked about going out to eat with S and his friends and their families (all of our friends before the separation) before going to see Sesame Street Live. Everyone is so excited to go and it was all H's idea.

He once again brought up his parents Christmas. I said I want to go, but "you understand". He said yes, but made a strong hint that he would be home by then (maybe my anniversary present). I did leave "St. Nick" a note on Saturday that said how I was thankful for the gifts, but what S and I really want is our family completely restored by Christmas. H didn't say anything about the note, but he did take it with him.

I also gave him his St. Nick gift which was an ornament with his name on it and a bag of taffy (he loves taffy). He gave me a big hug and just let me settle in his arms for a bit. It was nice. He left to "get my gift" because I guess he ordered it on line and it is out of stock. When he left, he gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. Progress! I am not getting my hopes up too much, but he is showing concern and really has changed. I am just following his lead and once in a while going out on a limb with a nice, small gift, a text, e-mail, etc. I am trying to show that I care without being overly pursuing. It seems to be working and we are really getting along.

I am less and less worried about OW, and more and more thinking it will be ok. I just keep praying there are 10 more days. This will determine so much.