Think OW is here in my house right now!

[aflowergurlie]

AFG,

So sorry you've experienced this. Your H doesn't deserve you.

Right now is the time to summon your inner queen. A Queen is above it all: the petty interactions, the grimy peasants and their disease-ridden wenches, etc. A Queen, however, is secure in her personal power, and *that's* why she can rise above it all.

After all, a queen would not argue with someone beneath her. She would simply make the best decision for herself and her kingdom *no matter what* antics anyone threw her way.

That's not to say that the Queen doesn't rail and scream and weep in private. She has a heart--a big one--and sometimes things hurt. But she never shows that to the one who's wounding her. She just draws her boundaries with a detached but firm air, and lets what happens, happen.

YOU are dignified; YOU have self-respect and respect for your vows. When you *do* have to interact with H, remember that. Practice the amused smile, the checking your watch, the "I'm sorry you feel that way, but I have decided X."

You are a strong woman; I don't think I could have maintained that kind of self-control. I have no doubt that YOU will be 100% fine--and a stronger, better human being--in the end.

SD

This was so inspiring and encouraging - thank you from bottom of my heart.

What's next, more kitty pictures?

Seriously, was he dropped on his head? What sort of human being believes that this sort of behavior is normal?

This made me LMAO. Yes, wouldn't that be a riot to start getting kitten picture texts again. ROFL.

AFG ~~~
I don't see it as "retaliation" to deny him the ability to share a home with you. I mean, what would it take for you to throw him out? Some behaviors demand a strong consequence and I believe this is one. He has violated every decency I can think of and gets to sleep in his own bed (the same bed) tonight. If he beat the stew out of you, would you let him in the house again? If it were me (and I know, I know - it's not and you have to make your own decisions) I would have my father there waiting on the door step to tell him that he better not try to take one foot in that door or hell will rain down on him. And the only contact I would have with him would be through the most successful lawyer in my city.

Greek

Yes, my brother and a few other close friends are ready, willing, and waiting if and when I need to call on them.