Think OW is here in my house right now!

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Maybe it would be worth it to call the police after ten minutes - if he hasn't left with the ho - just in case one or both of them gets crazy. That's what you could tell the cops - "Hey - my H has his OW in our home and I've given them ten minutes to get out. Could you be here to make sure I am safe while they leave." I would do that.
Greek

Yes, exactly Greek ^^^^ that was my thinking, that we both live in our house, both our names are on the lease, but she is a trespasser to me in my home and police could force her to leave. That's why I was willing and ready to call them.

What next, AFG? He's gotta go, girl.
Greek

I'm finding the best lawyer I can now.

Ummmm...you're not answering that text.

What next?

Do you have a lawyer? Are you divorcing him or are you still working on things? I read back through your thread to get a feel for where you are, but catch me up. Are you done or what? Seems to me that if you were not done before, you should be now. AFG ~~~ what he has done is unbelievable ABUSE and DISRESPECT and beyond the pale of anything that I have EVER heard of EVER!

He is SORRY he caught you off guard with all THIS. THAT is what he is SORRY for???? Off guard - like "Gee, should have given you notice. Regret that I didn't." He is a disrespectful man-child who does not deserve anymore tolerance from YOU.

Greek

No, I never did answer either of the texts. And yes, I am fully done now. Completely agree with this being the biggest disregard of me and lack of respect that he has ever done. How in the world he thought that what I would just bend over and take that or go and run and hide in my room or leave the house and talk to him later about it???? I just want to know what kind of crack he is smoking now to be this far removed from any resemblence of the person he used to be. Absolutely Mind-blowing!

I hope you take all these suggestions and have him packed up by the end of the day. I also hope you call an attny first thing in the morning. And I *really* hope you don't respond to the text or any other form of contact with your H.

Go totally dark, get your ducks in a row, share NOTHING with him and seek legal counsel.

My H has pulled some stunts but this is beyond horrid and so disrespectful it's not even within my realm of understanding. I do understand though. My H went on a vacation with OW funded by HER BROTHER while he and I were supposed to be working on a settlement of our assets. He didn't tell me he was going until he was on the plane then suggested to be via e-mail that once he got OW to bed he would get online and we could work on the settlement during his vacation. LOL! That was when my attny stepped in and took over. Now I have 80% of our assets, 1/3 of his after tax income per month and health/dental/vision for the next three years along with all my legal fees paid and I kept the apartment and all our possessions

The WAS "script" is one thing. Tolerating emotional abuse is another. I am sorry you had to experience such a thing.

I plan on following everything said above to a tee!