Can I save my marriage?

[Ready2Change]

Well I guess its speech practicing time.

Examine the structure of what we wrote. IT IS A BOUNDARY. There is no blame. It says how you feel. It gives HIM a choice. One is what you would prefer him to choose. The other has consequences TO HIM. (ya they affect you and the family and he may choose this, but that is not the type of man you want to be with anyways). He may have to go through some PAIN to LEARN and decide to CHASE YOU and show ACTION by picking the other option.

I had full intensions of it until I heard the news.

ALL OF THAT IS IN THE PAST. THIS IS NOW.

Let me suggest that you make your decisions based on what YOU want and not let anything from the past or the fear of anything in the future control YOU.

Im just really bothered by it and dont know how to find out the truth

I am sorry that it bothers you. Let me also suggest that you be PATIENT and let the TRUTH come when it is time.

S3 drew a picture of our family last night and showed H. I commented that it was sad.

Why did you feel it was sad?

H looked at me and said why? Its cute and it makes me happy.

His opinion. We are all allowed our opinions. Does not mean they are right or wrong, just different.