Originally Posted By: lost1234
ok i do get that...it seems to be a vicious cycle however he NEVER even mentioned coming home b4...

how (NO JOKE INTENDED) do i put him off as far as filing???


Leave him alone. The more pressure you put on him to make a decision, the more likely you'll be to get the one you don't want.

Originally Posted By: lost1234
lrt or what? i havent even finished reading the book...


The last resort technique is exactly that; when you know that you are likely to lose the relationship and have tried everything else. It's called the LRT because you are basically giving up on your relationship and hoping the shock to your spouse brings them to their senses.

If you aren't ready for that, you're not ready for the LRT.

Last edited by TrentC; 12/07/09 10:17 PM.
Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."