Even if hormone therapy would make a significant difference in your sex life (and it might very well) you still end up right back where you started. You've told us your wife isn't interested in solving this problem. She thinks it's not a problem, or she thinks it's your problem, or whatever, but how do you plan to get her to go on a drug regimen in order to help her do the hard work of rebuilding your sex life when she isn't willing to do anything else about it?
You are the one who perceives the problem. You are the one who understands something of how serious this is. If she does, she's not admitting it. But you're still looking for ways to fix your broken wife instead of focusing on what you can do.
If *you* could make a difference by taking hormone replacements, I'd be all for it. If you think *she'll* be open to the idea, at least of talking to her doctor about medical solutions to low libido, then by all means, I'm for it. Is that the case?
Let me put it to you bluntly: why should your wife be willing to go to her doctor and talk to him about medical solutions to the sex life she says is what she wants . . . and if the doctor recommends HRT, be willing to go through it, when you're not even willing to stop having affairs? From what you've told us, she's already told you flatly that she would rather send you out to other women and put up with everything that goes along with that than do anything to make you happy in your sex life with her. I don't see the point of recommending that you tell her to go get medical work done.
Now, again, you're the one in the house, and if you think she'll do that, it's a great idea. But I really think you're going to find that no matter how unfair it may seem, the guy who perceives the problem is the guy who will have to take the first steps to solve it.
