newmama, yeah my theorie about the "famous speech" - I actually remember that I asked him why he had told me that particular day - what had happened that it happened then. Remember, he was abroad, not home. His answer: " The last time I was home I had a look at our bank statements and that was the reason I told you now"
I actually had a look at those statements recently and they looked the same as always - not good but the same as always.
And there was another thing I noticed - he sent me a video in April of him working in his spare time at his teamleaders house - tiling - he had gotten his first ever hair cut abroad in 1.5 years - before he always had gotten his haircut at home because of his language barrier.
And when he came home in May - the same trip where we had sex - our whole family went to the next town which is 40 minutes away to buy new underwear for him as he likes the shop so much. I didn't think anything at the time but I read it's one sign of a man cheating - buying new underwear. We drove 40 minutes for new underwear.
