No, and that's the issue in case you missed it...not being screwed. Simply put, words are cheap without any action. However, when actions match words in very specific and measurable ways (in that they can measured in units of quantity, length and time), they can begin to be called "reality."
And since you brought up BS, I suggest that you take your own advice about "reality." For example, you made a "new age" reference. Since you brought that up and used that terminology(I did not), it apparently has some meaning for you AND you then act upon that meaning, that interpretation of what it means TO YOU, as if that were reality, as if it were THE TRUTH. And then you go and magnify the problem you set up for yourself by stating that if someone argues with you about your own interpretation of their situation (notice that we are not talking about your interpretation of your own situation) that it "proves" something.
Is that how you solved the sexual problems in your marriage such that you now have unfettered, unrestricted sex whenever you please (or more often than you please)?
As another example of your own unawareness of your own unreality, look at the story you tell yourself and then published about Columbus. Do you honestly believe the story that you wrote (as in where is your evidence?) or is it a "feel-good story" because the truth is not as interesting. Yes, the basic and approximate diameter of the Earth had been worked out several thousand years before by geometry.
And you completely ignore the purpose and the errors made by Columbus. First, he refused to believe the geometry and chose to believe overly optimistic (smaller diameter) estimates. Second, the stated purpose (and as far as I can discern this has not changed since I learned this stor 5 decades ago) was to dicover an over-water route to Eastern Asia rather than the over-land route that had long been used.
Columbus did not meet his stated objectives, did he? So, while he might be credited with finding something unexpected, he did not produce the results expected or promised. Relative to the subject matter here, that would be your "any hole is a success" strategy.
Earl,
Do you ever listen to yourself?
Do you ever look back at the posts you've written here, and ask yourself what it is you truly want?
Bear was showing you some compassion and some advice, yet you just couldn't help yourself - you felt compelled to try and score intellectual points off him. As if that's the point of you being here. Is it? Or does some part of you want your life to change. You're the one that called this thread "Waiting More Than a Dozen Years".
I think the real point of the Columbus example is this. There were things Columbus "knew" that were fact, and things he "knew" that weren't, but were merely beliefs shaped by his perceptions.
Your beliefs and perceptions about yourself, have been inevitably influenced by your marriage, which has been devoid of sex for the last 12 years. How could they not be?
Earl, anyone in that situation would have built up a lot of hurt, anger and resentment. You are only human. And it seems to me that those feelings come out in your responses to some of the other posters, in your attempts to intellectually cut them down to size.
It doesn't fool me.
S&A
"A man can be destroyed but not defeated" - from The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway.
Which I take to mean that every man has within him a spirit of relentlessness and optimism. Its already there; he just has to cultivate it.
