Why not call the DB coach? Sure, it's $300+ for 3 sessions but you are in an urgent situation. They offer more than hope, they give you strategies. People on here are doing their own thing; we aren't trained in Michele's techniques.

BTW IT IS NOT HOPELESS! MOST WSs threaten divorce...usually the BSs divorce first!

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004