I may be next

[TrentC]

TrentC I will ask her what she meant by that. Is that R talk? or just clarification.

It's clarification. I read that thing four times before I decided that I had no idea what her point was.

She says that she won't leave the bedroom because she doesn't want to stress the kids with the move and stuff.

The move to where? The couch? The spare bedroom? If she chooses to stay in the bedroom, she accepts responsiblity for what happens there. (That is not license to push things or to make her uncomfortable.)

I think it's more of her seeing what she will be losing / destroying and having second thoughts but who knows.

You can't know that for sure.

I won't leave because I am not making the choice to leave and have expressed that several times.

Good for you.