by these men i was talking about men who are going through a mlc...ones who have walked away during them...
sorry!
No offense taken, I just wanted to be clear where the frustration is being directed.
Originally Posted By: lost1234
something else that i cant grasp is why my h says he is hurting as much as i am...i really dont get it. he chose to leave, i didnt throw him out or even ask him to go.
He is hurting because he is trying to justify the decisions he has made. It doesn't mean that he is making the best choices right now, because he's letting his feelings steer him.
The whole point of DB'ing is to change the relationship enough that he starts to question things.
This is one of the reasons why we say things like "wait 48 hours before committing to a major decision" and "never respond out of anger, or fear, or frustration".
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
