Oh my goodness, glad you are close to Boulder, have visited Pearl Street and had fun.
I read your post H moved out but seems like he is already having regrets. It must be hard to have him pop in and out like that, still have to walk on eggshells; on the other hand you probably like to see/hear from him. My H leaves Wednesday morning for Montreal and he had not resigned from work, we work together, so I blew that up with my boss today and am just shaking. H is also going to wire his share of the money market this afternoon is now trying to get a couple of grand more because H says he doesn't have a job yet and at least I am employed. I told him all weekend this has been his doing and I am not allowing him to use pity.
I also told him I would prefer if he find another ride to the airport. He said he would but I bet you he will end up putting me on the spot. And if I don't than he will blame me for trying to keep him here.
During the weekend there were some difficult and some very touching moments when H was himself. I had hoped he would decide he is making a mistake but I never once asked him. I can imagine how you were feeling now that I am going through this and I cannot believe how cold and shaky I feel - it sucks! We are talking new leather sofa hurt...
As for your H you have got a long road ahead but you sound amazing for how you have handled yourself and continue on with DB techniques. I am sure they gave you great advice during telephone counseling.
I am getting anxious also even after all this time H has no idea what he is in for...practicing keeping communication short if not at all. However, he is leaving enough loose ends open that I know we'll have to talk and I know that it won't be easy. So again just trying to stay calm and prepare myself.
I hope that a D never does actually go through for you and your H comes around to understanding the love of a family and sort out his issues very soon. Again sending you good wishes.
Take care and hugs, Michele
M 42 H 41 Together 23 yrs. Married 16 yrs. D papers filed H leaving 12/9
