WAW turning around? What now?

[LiveToLearn]

Well the visit was not what I had planned. I was very calm for most of it. But... I did ask why we were getting divorced again since we never tried to work it out.

OOOPs. That was so dumb. EVERYONE please take note, this is stupid. Never ask that question. She will tell you if she wants to when she wants to. This just puts pressure on her. Not the right move.

So then she starts being mean. I say "I think it is time for you to go." I then stood up and made for the door. She said "are you for real?" I replied "as soon as you are ready to be nice I would be glad to talk to you."

That shifted things and she apologized. There was a couple other times that I did dumb stuff but most of it is hindsight. I was not trying to save the relationship I was just letting her know that she is the one walking away. She tried to criticize my decision to adopt my daughter after she left, saying I was selfish. I called her on that saying that it was none of her business and I am just keeping my promise and looking out for my family. She is the one splitting the family up.

Got a very "happy" reaction from her when she heard about the two woman I was now starting to date. Both are young fitness instructors and all of a sudden she lit up and started telling me how proud she was of me for all the things that I have improved in my life.

It was very strange, but not completely unexpected. She is still pushing for the divorce. She called me a couple times and I was not available. She wrote me a email saying she was having a hard day and did was not in the mood to talk.

Then instead of her calling every night like she normally does she has had my daughter call. Last night she was telling my daughter in the background "ask if he wants to come to your swimming lesson."

I could be reading way too much into this but I think telling her that I was dating as well as telling her that I did not think she was super great, and that I am not that into her did something.

Not sure if in the long run it will pay off but at least I got a couple things off my chest in an appropriate way.

Live and learn I guess.