She acknowledges that I am a changed man. A wonderful father and a good person. She just says she cannot let go of the past. Wants "new life experiences."
You are taking action by moving on. She probably has thought so much about these "new life experiences" that there was likely NOTHING you could have done to stop the separation once she made up her mind.
Others have posted good synopsis of how you make end up back together. These first six months for your W are going to be euphoric. She can go where she wants, with you, clean when she wants or not at all. Spend whatever. Everything will be new.
The LBS, on the other hand, spends the first six months picking up the pieces. Developing a new routine, mourning, rebuilding a social network.
At six months the joy of the single life may start to wear off for the Walk Away Spouse. Lots of friends are married. The ones that aren't have their own issues. They start to miss things they took for granted that the LBS spouse provided. Bills pile up. They miss important dates with their kids. Housework piles up.
The LBS, on the other hand, now knows life isn't over. They've found friends to hang out with. They have new routines set up. They feel the freedom of not having to walk around on eggshells with the dreaded S hanging over their head.
Just keep going with your life and be positive. That will filter back to her through the kids and friends. At some point, a lot of Walk-Aways find out the grass isn't greener and come back to work on the M.
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