Whether or not you should stop being dark, whether you should be friends with EX-family... Your focus is on what it says about you rather than on the value of the R and the other person in the R for him/herself. In a nutshell, you are taking how they react to you, interact with you as proof about something about yourself...Don't choose it because of what you think such a choice says about you, for that is the back door toward codependence rather than away from it.
The friendship question I was thinking about is not about what it says or doesn't say about me. It was more along the lines of what path would bring me closer to any chance of reconcilliation in the future. And as I am sitting here thinking about this, I can see similarities in my objectives with that of his girlfriend's past actions, while she was still working through friend-crush-flirting, wedging herself into my marriage. Yuck.
I just want to find some make-believe rewind button and have my husband back, the man who loved me, once.
Emotional exhaustion. How many naps can you take in a day? And I stayed home to catch up on real work...
