My wife moved out 3 weeks ago (11/14). I haven't had much contact with her, except to talk about the kids. I even wait a couple days to respond to her voicemails, if they aren't urgent. She wanted space. Plus, a little curiousity about what I'm up to might not hurt.
I do want her back, deeply. I am not a crushed, pleading, crying wreck. I went through those stages when we lived together. It was a year long journey between her divorce announcement and the final separation. I learned a lot about myself and love. My change has made me strong. I know I will be okay. I do miss her. I do want what's best for her. The holidays are especially sad.
I want to reenter her life, in a positive way. I don't know how to do that. I've thought about ordering her flowers for Christmas. My friends tell me I'm crazy, just to let her go. Are flowers a good idea? I'll have them delivered on 12/15. With a note saying "Merry Christmas" and "Happy New Year." Nothing about love or wanting her back. I don't want to appear needy. I want her to realize I am truely a nice guy. I want her to start to form a new opinion. Is this a good idea? Bad idea? Too soon? Or, do I do something different?
