antlers, TrentC, guess I need to get my flak vest ready, and prepare for the hostilities. This isn't going to go well, is it? I am going to get called names, and told things I probably don't want to hear huh? She is going to do whatever she can to destroy me, isn't she? The OM - if there is one, is going to be my fault too. I gotta get my $hit together...
The funny thing is, even though we're tossing around analogies to armed conflict, DBing is as much about negotiation and dialogue as anything.
If she tries to attack you verbally, defuse the situation with validation. It's hard to fight with someone who agrees with you. When in doubt, reply with something like "I'm not sure how I feel about that; let me think about it and get back to you."
Don't let her blame you for the OM; being hurt and alone may not be her fault, but choosing to seek comfort with OM was.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
