The night he came home and gave me the speech he swore on his grandmother's grave he wasn't seeing anyone and he said my trust issues were one of the reasons he was leaving. He swore he would never cheat. He said if things didn't work out that he didn't want another woman ever again. He lied about everything.
It's funny how he blames your "trust issues" for his leaving when he "swore on his grandmother's grave" that he wasn't having an affair, and was lying about it. (Hint, hint: it's not really about your trust issues.)
It is paranoia if people really are out to get you?
Originally Posted By: twistfigure
I could maybe forgive him if it was just sex but they have a relationship. He jumped out of our relationship and into another relationship just like the one he said he didn't want. I just don't know that I can ever forgive that. I don't know that now that he knows I know if he would even want to try again either.
Standard DB prescription for rebuilding trust: if he wants to come back, he gets to provided you set clear boundaries that he must honor, plus he agrees to NC with the OW and full transparency.
If he won't do it, well, you already know your limits.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
