Need Some Qwik Advice

[OnceBurdened]

I posted in a flurry last week and understand that it is hard to read but the skinny version is this...

My W is having an affair with a Mutual Friend who is married. OMW knows, half the small town we live in knows. I have taken some steps along the way that are pretty close to DBing as I just found out because I just strted reading DR Thursday.She hasn't denied any of the affair but did say they were just friends and talked occasionally now. She told me the reason's for the marriage woes at this point now is us.

I asked her if she could tell me what she thought it could be. She said "I don't Know" and I said "For me,we can never get past anything if you do not stop all communication with OM". She replied "Why, I can be friends with him even after what happened." I replied " No, I cannot accept that. Your friendship crossed a line that could be crossed again if you continue your relationship and I won't accept it."

Up until this point I had threatened for divorce and was unable to do it. ILMW, plain and simple. So I had given her the money, the divorce documents and left it in her hands simply saying I'd cooperate with her if she wanted the divorce. Now, what I felt was,I had given her her final chance, give him up or me up.

I went into Dark Mode, no communication on Friday is unusual because we are both home. That evening, as I was heading across the Hockey Arena I saw her out of the corner of my eye. I avoided eye contact and continued on my path she hopped out in front of me, hugged me and gave me a kiss. Discussion and interaction was good and non specific stuff that night.

On Saturday, SIL was visiting when I got home from working out, she commented on how good I was looking in front of W.I went to shower, she turned her side on and climbed in. Than I screwed up, she refused any advances. I said- " I'm sorry i misread the signal- it won't happen again." No more communication that day that i can remember.

Saturday Night she slept in our bed for the first time in awhile.I heard a vibrating in the bed. It was her phone, she had it tucked under her pillow. I got it " opened the recieved message which read " I love you, Goodnite" from OM. I told her to get the F out. She asked Y ? I said is this appropriate behavior for him to send this to you? She replied NO. I said" Did you tell him to stop contacting you or it was over or anything along those lines?' She replied " No, it's hard i have feelings for him" I said "Fine- file the doc's or I will on Monday and walk away from your family, your wrecking a home and S*n on me everytime this happens and I Won't stand for it anymore"

Last Night we filled out the papers for paperwork to be filed today. I did not speak to her until @ 10 am after she asked about S's Hockey practice. I simply gave her time and location via text. She sent me 8 texts immediatelly after asking how i was. I texted her back " I am Fine, energized, been cleaning shop allnite, but I wish you would limit our communication to the task at hand and our children." She called 6 times in a row - I answered calmly "Hey" She said she had cried all night and wasn't feeling good about her decision. I said " Than why are you testing me, to see if I'll cry again? It ain't gonna happen" She said " Can I call you @ Lunch, I wanna just wait on filing." I said " Yes I listen to what you have to say"

SO- now what do I do. I heven't read all the DR yet, Can you Help me qwikly?