Originally Posted By: Unsure10
Coach,

I've noticed on a lot of posts that you bring up the 5LLs a lot. Here is my question. My W's LLs are physical touch and quality time. How do I accomplish that when we are together? I mentioned the hug request at mediation by her. Your thoughts on that?


Hmm... that is tricky, given the likelihood of an affair.

I don't think there is anything wrong with showing some simple affection, and it sounds like something that can be used to fill that love bank. You could give her a hug, then smile and walk away; no pressure on either of you for it to mean more.

Last edited by TrentC; 12/07/09 05:51 PM. Reason: Thought about it some more
Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

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