here we go again

[TrentC]

now he called and left a msg.

something like this: his tone was very angry, i call you and text you every day and you do not respond back to me, i WANT to know how my daughter is,

Well, you should be willing to discuss his daughter with him. He's still her father and, barring an official custody/visitation arrangement or restrictive order, he has as much right to spend time with her as you do.

i know you hate me and wish i would die,

"I can understand how you might think that, but really, I'm just extremely disappointed in you."

i know daughter wants to see me, i care about her and you, getting even angerier in his tone, using cuss words, put your anger aside and text me or call me if she is okay.

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should i respond in a day or two with boundaries of seeing daughter?

Call him and tell him how his daughter is doing and discuss plans for visiting or whatever.

If he starts to get angry or abusive, cut him off with "I think we should be able to keep this conservation civil; if you are going to get agitated, then we can talk later" and HANG UP. Do not return his call, but call him when you think things have cooled down again. If he starts up again, repeat the above and HANG UP again.