Lol, yes friends. I just feel he is being friendlier than friends! I guess over-analyzing isn't a good thing and I should just go with the flow. However, I am not 'waiting' for him.
I had some sad family news at the weekend and I am really missing H.
I'm so sorry you had bad news. It does make it a little more painful when you don't have your spouse to lean on for support. Lean on your friends though, that is what they are there for!
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Everyone seems to be in a bad mood at work
Any particular reason or just typical seasonal grumpiness?
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Basically we had a really wonderful weekend together a few of weeks back, after which time he implied a 'friends with benefits' situation which I said no to.
Good for you! I really don't understand FWB. That is such a shallow way to treat someone. Not to be crude, but I always think the perfect response to that is "Then let me introduce you to Rosy Palm.". Let's face it, most women are not cut out for a FWB situation. Women must feel love to have sex with a man, but a man just needs an attraction. Love comes secondary to physical need in most men. God sure had a sense of humor where that was concerned right? Kind of like women hitting their sexual peak in their 30's while men hit it at 18-20. SADLY OUT OF WHACK!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
So true about FWB, it is cake-eating to me, and if it is mutually beneficial then fine but I know that I wouldn't want that and anyway, I have no reason to 'settle' for that. I deserve more. But friends is fine, I guess I was just confused about the amount of texts etc, I mean everyday is pretty extreme! I think if we lived more locally to each other it wouldn't have been an issue but we don't. I guess I'll just see how it goes and maybe carry on as I have done, respond when I have the time but don't initiate.
I have no idea why people are being grumpy but my trustee seems to be taking it out on me, so I am feeling a bit battered by it. I even just tried to strike up a conversation about cooking a stew and she ended up being really aggressive with me. Shouting at me about tomatoes! If I go quiet and stay in my office I am accused of not working though, so I guess it is no win. I just keep repeating to myself, 17 days...
Well my holiday is approaching and I am so unorganised. I have done nothing but I am sure it will all get done in the end it always seems to.
I have just had a Christmas do at my work (which was rocking considering the youngest person there was 60 and the oldest 98!!) but the lady who used to do my job was there and asking about h. She doesn't know we are separated. I just found myself half lying really. Saying he was fine and he had a new job etc. I guess I didn't really lie, I just didn't say anything. I just couldn't face it. Now I feel a bit bad.
The other thing is Christmas cards. I know that all my extended family know etc (my mother has seen to that!) but I just find it so hard sending Christmas cards just from me. I guess I feel a lot of shame still about it, even though I have nothing to be ashamed about. I just hate the thought that people may be assuming things. Maybe I am assuming that they are assuming... or alternatively just wittering Anyway, I guess I will bite the bullet and just send them out.
Well you are absolutely right that have nothing to be ashamed about at all. However I do understand how you feel on the Christmas card thing. I have purposedly delayed sending any out because I find it depressing as well to send them out from just me. However I am thinking it might be a bit therapuetic in helping with the detaching process to go ahead and do it.
Don't be surprised if even after you have sent them out from just you, people send them to you and H. then you just of have to bite the bullet and say it. I have never wanted to come across as bitter or vindictive, but also didn't want people to not know the truth. I just kind of say, it was hard to stay married when H thought he would die without his affair partner.
I think he told most of his friends that we had grown apart or were fighting...not a peep about little H hunting and finding a new playmate!!
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Let's face it, most women are not cut out for a FWB situation. Women must feel love to have sex with a man, but a man just needs an attraction. Love comes secondary to physical need in most men. God sure had a sense of humor where that was concerned right? 
Kind of like women hitting their sexual peak in their 30's while men hit it at 18-20. SADLY OUT OF WHACK!
Anyway, I guess I will bite the bullet and just send them out.