Well I have had reservations for months and I decided to call his phone this morning and listen to his voicemails. I listened to 14 messages from another woman telling my husband she loved him and missed him and needed him. Part of me is so upset but the other half is relieved because now that I know I can move on. Cheating has always been a dealbreaker and he knew it. So that's it. This divorce is not going to get busted.
But doesn't this indicate that he's NOT been calling her back, if she's leaving so many that all say the same thing???
If the fact that he even had an affair is a dealbreaker then, well, you have your boundaries. No one here will hold it against you if want to file for D; we are here to support you in whatever you choose to do.
But PDT has a point: whatever is, or was, going on may be over. With some time and effort (and clearly-stated boundaries and transparency), your relationship can recover from this.
The choice is yours.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
