That's up to you. Sex is a very intimate thing, and if you don't feel that connected to your husband, then maybe it's not a good idea to continue while things are up in the air.
If he gets frustrated, spell it out to him: "I feel that continuing to make love to you while you're unsure whether you want to continue being married to me makes things more complicated for both of us. So until you come to a decision, I don't think it's a good idea for us to have sex."
Originally Posted By: lost1234
is it true that these men DO NOT have any answers??? for anything???
Who are "these men" you are referring to? Your husband? WAH's in general? The men on this forum?
I can't tell you what your husband may be thinking, because I'm not your husband, nor am I a walk-away spouse. I don't identify with that mindset.
As for those of us on the forums: our advice is worth exactly what you pay for it.
I'm not a trained marriage counselor, I'm just a guy who is trying to offer support, understanding, and compassion while working on saving my own marriage. Other people are offering what has and has not worked in rebuilding their relationships.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
