Donna--finding herself #37

[mishka422]

OT - that has to be one of the best posts I have ever seen! You are so brilliant. You said everything I was thinking but in a much better way than I could have put it.

Donna, sweetie, you know how much I love and care for you. At least I hope you do! I want nothing more than for you to release all of this and live life strictly on your own terms and without wondering what effect it will have on those remotely associated with you.

Or do I continue to be withdrawn, "dark," protect myself from it all and avoid all necessary contact? Wish that he would just go away...

Unhealthy. You know it, I know it. This is a protection mechanism but you no longer need to be in protection mode. You have created a life of your own. There is truly no reason to be totally withdrawn from them, that smacks of being hostile. Is there any reason to feel that way anymore? I wouldn't think so. Like OT said though, it doesn't mean you have to have a R with them to prove anything. Do what you feel will work for you. Saying hello and exchanging pleasantries is being real. Trying to force yourself into a R with people you no longer have anything in common with is fake and only will further your own pain.

Please print and read OT's post over and over. I really think what she said will be hugely helpful! Heck, even give it to your C and have her read it. She might find creative ways to work those ideas into your future sessions.

((((((((((Donna)))))))))))))))))))