One thing that seems like an uphill battle is that, contrary to the glowing optimism I've read that women reach their sexual peak in their 40's, the reality is that that is a sort of ideal separated from some factors which affect many women in real life. In real life, things which knock down a woman's libido in a great percentage of cases include multiple childbirths and menopause. And if you take those two things together, the MAJORITY of women experience a reduced libido due to one of these effects or both.
I think any plan to turn my wife around at this point has to squarely address the best that we know about how to counter these two major factors for women. I hope you guys aren't going to argue with the statement here, as this is backed up by widespread statistics. Libido drop associated with menopause happens in about 45% of cases, while only about 15% see an increase with menopause, while the rest remain unchanged. And libido drop after childbirths is pretty common too -- it comes back for many women, but stays low and never resumes its youthful level for a good fraction of women. So, combining both of menopause and childbirth, you're a lucky women if your libido has not been affected.
My question is simply how to counter these effects. You can discuss my attitude about this, of course, but the fact remains that what I've stated above is a problem independent of my attitude as well. I know I don't have the answers, and I'm not sure even the specialists do either, as I've heard conflicting advice. Hormone therapy, etc. pros and cons, works for some, not for others, etc.
