I'm new wondering if this works...

[TrentC]

I may be down your road soon and I'm not sure I can try so hard to make things work out with someone who doesn't.

But that is the essence of divorce busting. Most of us are starting from the position of "my WAS says it's over", when means that they have given up hope of the relationship working out.

Don't you think..even if you turn things around and the marriage starts working. There will be deep rooted resentment for what he has put you through?

Only if you let there be. You can't control your emotions, but you can choose how to respond to them.

will you ever trust that he won't pull away again? Do you wanna live in fear?

That what boundaries and transparency are for -- to rebuild trust.