Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

I an convinced if there was another woman that it is over.

Why are you convinced of that? Just because he kissed you?

You're still putting a lot of time and energy into trying to figure out his "signals", and look how much stress you put yourself though. The other day, you were spitting nails and ready to toss him out on his ass if he'd slept with another woman -- now you think everything is okay because he showed you some affection?

You didn't believe he was even having an affair until someone told you he was; when you tried to investigate, you were reassured that there was no way he could be having an affair, and now you seem to be okay with the idea that the affair (that wasn't happening, mind you) is done with.