You are leaping desperately out of the way of the point . . . but you can't miss it forever because you don't really want to. If you honestly were as obstinately determined to fail as you're pretending to be, you'd be off somewhere else doing something else.
But you're going to have to make the scary leap to being honest about what you have to offer sooner or later if you want anything to change in your marriage. Declaring that you're worthless and waiting for her to contradict you is not working.
