Ya know hope...I've been thinking. I may be down your road soon and I'm not sure I can try so hard to make things work out with someone who doesn't. Don't you think..even if you turn things around and the marriage starts working. There will be deep rooted resentment for what he has put you through? will you ever trust that he won't pull away again? Do you wanna live in fear? These are just my thoughts but I think when it gets to this point - you really have to think - do you want to try so hard or do you want to be with someone who is trying real hard for you?
just my thoughts...
And THAT is a VERY important factor. It took me a while finally to understand and accept that try as I might, I could not sustain a R if I was the only one trying - IT TAKES TWO. Without BOTH people working on the R, it cannot succeed.
Which leaves the LBS to consider whether any progress is being made. For me, as long as I believe we are making progress, I will continue to try. But, there may come a point where my W simply does not want to try. At that point, I see no choice left but to go our seperate ways.
