Found it . . . this is what Dancequeen said to me in July of 2008:
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Silly,
Have you heard this old joke?
A man finds a genie in a bottle. The genie only grants one wish. The man thought long and hard and decided that his wish would be for a bridge to be built between California and Hawaii, as he had always wanted to visit but was afraid to fly.
The genie told him, "well this can be accomplished, but there would be serious ecological effects by putting a bridge that long throughout the ocean. Do you think you could pick another wish that would not have such negative side effects?"
The man thought for a moment, and then said "ok well then my back up wish would be that I could really, truly understand women and how they think".
The genie said "how many lanes wide would you like that bridge?"
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I am sure this doesn't help you and possibly makes you grumpy (or as my little nephew says "gwumpy").
But hopefully it at least made you smile.
Silly, I have given up trying to give you advice because I fear you just see me like the enemy in some ways (plus I know I come across and too aggressive and know-it-all and that turns a lot of people off). But I am still reading and silently rooting for you to get this thing turned around. Bagheera is your best bet for advice.
Hang in there, and how wide do you want that bridge?
DQ
This is after I'd been trying to follow their advice for three weeks. Seriously. It's not easy.
