I think "me" is coming back a bit because, I'm getting rid of this pneumonia, and, most importantly, I can feel that R talk formulating in my mind (sound familiar?????).
At last count we have 12 bottles of varying versions of Axe in S12's bathroom/shower. Luckily, it was the visiting 12 year-olds w/the stink issues! Send 'em home!
Your diet sucks.
Glad it works for you!!!! Congrats! You're going to need some plastic surgery to deal with all of the sagging skin if you lose much more!!! Way to go!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I can feel that R talk formulating in my mind (sound familiar?????).
Yeah... if you can, bounce your ideas off here before you do it. I'll be glad to help you translate.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
Your diet sucks.
I knew it! I knew it!
Originally Posted By: mindfull
You're going to need some plastic surgery to deal with all of the sagging skin if you lose much more!!
Know any good ones? Actually my weights been pretty stable over the last weeks. Don't need to lose anymore. I'm pretty happy with where I am now. First time I've been able to see my toes since 16
You mentioned that you kind of distanced your H during the last two heart incidents. Can you give me more info on these interactions? I.e. the first time, what was his reaction? and the second time where you handled it with minimal effort. Can you share some details?
THURSDAY INCIDENT - I called him (late), as he had left to go out of town for work, and I was, truly, gasping for air, my heart rate was sky high, and I was sweating through my pajamas. (Otherwise, I would have probably just tried the techniques, and went on w/my evening sleep routine!) He was in "fixer" mode. Ex: "OK, let's take your heart rate... you count your beats, and I'll keep track of time. Should I call D18 to come and take you to ER? Should I call neighbors to take you? What techniques have you tried?" We talked through it, and after about four phone calls from him, and me trying things independently, we had success, and I had a normal rhythm.
SATURDAY INCIDENT - He came into our room, looking for me, and I told him it was happening again (I was in the bathroom). I asked him to get me a bowl of ice (technique is to dunk your head in a bowl of ice water to shock your system back to normal). After that, I went through it all on my own, but he was laying on the bed, with me next to him in between dunks, etc... He helped me time my pulse. Also, (this is nice!) he saw first hand that the situation makes me hurl, and then the heart rate comes down quite quickly after that... I was up and down from the bed about 10 times. It was becoming a bit funny, actually. So, basically, I didn't require much from him, didn't request anything except the ice, but appreciated him being next to me. (I did a lot on my own in the bathroom.)
I just don't want to be thought of as this failing health, needy wife now. NOT ATTRACTIVE
Also, I let him know I tied the two incidents to a trigger (breathing treatments both days for pneumonia), so hopefully it won't happen again!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
PS - I made a superb dinner last night for all of us, had the table set nice, xmas music on, etc... It was fun, as we were decorating, eating, etc...
At dinner the boys and I laid a surprise on H... Next weekend my S12 has a bball tournament out of town, and on Sunday afternoon, at a nearby venue, the TransSiberian Orchestra is playing. We got tickets for all of us to go after the tournament. H loved this, as he and I had tickets to go once, about seven years ago, and he got called away for work, and I ended up bringing S12 as my date (who was an S5 at the time!). H really wanted to go, his idea, etc...
So, that is good.
(Still doesn't get him naked though!)
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I'm so sorry you are going through this on top of your illness. I didn't know
Please don't feel guilty that your heart problems make you look needy. That really upsets me. I'm so angry at your H right now. God please have mindfull's H be more gentle and loving with her at this time..please?
You are gonna be in my thoughts - all the way to the 28th. Bless your sick heart mind and try and be at peace.
Luv
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
luv, why do you think her H isn't being loving? I'm confused by this. But that is wonderful of you to pray for her! just want to understand what you feel he is doing to her. but then maybe your talking in general, not during the time she has the heart issue.
obviously, he's not loving at every moment, so maybe that's what you meant. but during these heart problems he has been very helpful. he helped her over the phone, and he sat by her while she was going thru it the 2nd time. She didn't ask for anything other than the ice, (which, btw MF, oh mygosh I would freeze! I can't believe you did that, but I guess if I was in your shoes I may want to try anything too)
can you explain a bit on that?
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Thank you for the prayers, and well wishes. This is supposedly a fairly easy procedure, and is 95 perc successful. It would have been okay to deal with, if I wasn't so weak from the pneumonia. I'm in the Dr office waiting room now. Hopefully, the lungs are revcovering! I feel better!
H is kind and gentle re: being sick, etc... Its the snark that sometimes needs to go! Funny though, if I mirror him, it appears to humor him. There has not been one more comment since I made the "don't hate" comment yest. In fact, he's quite attentive! Looks like Ill keep on the path of what works.
Thx, Luv!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I do understand the "needy wife" thing. it's okay to be needy when you need to be, it's what you do after that makes a difference. if you act all crazy, and worried all the time that it will happen again, or you get depressed from it, then that's not good.
gotta take kid to school....I'll be back...
have a great day!!! you sound SOOO much better! I love seeing the real you again!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Not sure what you question was... You dunk your head in a sink full of ice if your heart is racing as a technique. I'm assuming it shocks you, and re-starts your rhythm. ?? Appears to help, a bit. Its he11 on your eyeliner, though! LOL
I think Luv was praying, overall. I agree, H has been helpful. I could want for more, but... That gets me nowhere.
H just called as I was typing (again) to see what Dr said. Thinks I still look a bit weak, and wanted to tell me about a home improv project he's handling.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Actually my weights been pretty stable over the last weeks. Don't need to lose anymore. I'm pretty happy with where I am now. First time I've been able to see my toes since 16 
