The pain is still there..

[kat727]

I am sorry that you are still in pain. When you are ready you need to try to put memories and thoughts of your former life away in a box and keep it until it doesn't hurt so much. DB as you are well aware doesn't always save a marriage but it gives you a path to save yourself.

Perhaps the first step to get yourself out of this trap of pain is to try to volunteer for others. You will see that you have so much to give. Maybe also talk to a counselor to help work through these feelings. Try to do things with friends and keep busy. I am not trying to make light of your pain but you have a choice to make here. Are you going to take back control of your life and your feelings or are you going to let a woman that has moved on have that kind of power over you?

blessings, kat