I am doing good OT. I do see changes in W. (AMD I DID NOT MAKE HER CHANGE) at least not directly. I guess just taking care of myself did it. The saying from the film, 'Field of Dreams' "build it and they will come" ya know. I am building a new Doc The old wife, Doc and Marriage is GONE. I am NOT walking on egg shells but I do have to be careful the old Doc does not resurface again. Son just came in (its 6:30 am) to see if it snowed this morning. It didn't... He is all upset because he wanted school to be canceled today. Oh well... Back to W and I... We have been doing little things for each other like when you first start dating someone. I have been keeping the fireplace lit for her... she has been making me snacks, she asks me to go places with her. I have been cleaning up around the house. When she does ask me to do something I don’t put it off however I do not push myself to help her. If I see she needs help I will offer but before I was too pushy and forced my help on her. And now she has been asking for help (I installed her GPS in her care after she asked (she tried it herself and did not have any luck) ...I have been watching my words because sometimes I am sarcastic and I know it does not go over well. An example was yesterday she said she needed to go to the store to pick up an extension cord for our x mas tree. She was gone for almost 2 hours... The sarcastic Doc would have said “Where did you have to go, china to find it”? But the new Doc just said “did you have a hard time finding what you wanted” It’s amazing how much the little things add up. After being married for 19 years how you do take each other for granted and sometimes become careless with your words...
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
