Oh man, if we could all colectively have a buck every time a WAS "is trying to find him/her self", especially when it is used to help justify an A, we could hire James Cameron to direct the DB movie on a blockbuster budget.

She may believe it herself. Just make sure you don't.

Coach is making it quite clear what you need to do. Starting off the thinking process for boundaries by worring about consequences on YOUR part is exactly how you should not start off at all. Just IMHO.

Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.