how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[avermont]

Ahhh, but now I "remembered" this morning that my "90" or 180 is to NOT be so independent. Not to become a clinging vine, of course, but to show that I do need/want him in my life.

And here I go saying: Got the bills without you! no problem!

And I try to remember that HE blew off the November bills--apparently no concern then. Enjoying the gf and no responsibilities.

In all of everyone's wise advice, remember that I did not do much clinging, crying, begging. Sucked it up and acted pretty calm after 48 hours or so. So he isn't seeing much 180 there. So that is part of my struggle to find balance.

Did start reading Dobson's Tough Love last night. I skimmed over the Christian stuff (no offense to anyone, but it isn't my thing) and I do have to say I am amazed that he seems exactly in agreement with DB. Keep your dignity, demand respect.