SD, if you went through enough threads, you would have found references to the "fog" and "alien". That's what's happening. The fog is the WAS's life. They in it, live for it, and it defines them.

I completely understand how you feel "done". That's not your W you're dealing with now. You can't live your life wondering when she'll "be back", so you do what you must. That's not say the fog may not lift sometime in future.

Wishing you and your boys the best ...


Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.