Well its been years since Ive been on here...None of this divorce busting did any good...She ended up marrying the guy she had an affair with...Its been four years now and it still hurts...I still dont want anyone else and wonder if I will ever find that again. I just get tired of being depressed all the time...Im sure you guys know what im talking about. Ive tried the forgivness as a Christian but there are some days I just cant control the hatred its weird...Its gotten the best of me but what can ya do? I dunno...I just really miss her, she was my best friend...
I'm sorry. If you are truly compassionate with yourself, and you should be, then you will have a genuine concern for your pain...and not only that. You will also have a genuine desire to do something about your pain, and that means putting forth more effort to do whatever it takes to help you heal and not hurt anymore. Burn the pain you feel as fuel for your journey. I'm sorry you still hurt.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
Incidentally, the truth is you are made in the image of God and you have tremendous value. your abilities are many and you have scores of characteristics that others admire. God hasn't given up on you. In spite of all that has happened, God still intends to bring you to wholeness. He has strong and positive purposes for your life. - Dr. Gary Chapman, aauthor of The Five Love Languages
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
I am sorry that you are still in pain. When you are ready you need to try to put memories and thoughts of your former life away in a box and keep it until it doesn't hurt so much. DB as you are well aware doesn't always save a marriage but it gives you a path to save yourself.
Perhaps the first step to get yourself out of this trap of pain is to try to volunteer for others. You will see that you have so much to give. Maybe also talk to a counselor to help work through these feelings. Try to do things with friends and keep busy. I am not trying to make light of your pain but you have a choice to make here. Are you going to take back control of your life and your feelings or are you going to let a woman that has moved on have that kind of power over you?
blessings, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I am not trying to make light of your pain but you have a choice to make here. Are you going to take back control of your life and your feelings or are you going to let a woman that has moved on have that kind of power over you?
Very relevant question. It's easy to realize that this must be done...but it's harder to do. Nonehteless, it has to be done in order to go on and live a happy and healthy life.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
