#67 Cant find my "pieces"

[AliSuddenly]

Hey M, how are you? I didnt get this bit...

"IF I had felt "sexy" I would have kissed him back, teased him...."

You have to feel SEXY to kiss him? I see that as the other way around. When I fancy someone, I KNOW I want to kiss them, you can generally tell. And when you kiss them, it makes you feel sexy and like having sex.. What you said sounded a bit - cart before horse!? And did you really feel nothing??

What you describe above about distancing yourself sounds to me like - giving someone the benefit of the doubt. I guess you have to try and banish the negative thoughts, the what-ifs and all that, but you do need him to do more to reassure you. I have full access to my bf's phone and he reads his emails in front of me, for example. He says he is happy to, because he can't bear for me to feel worried or insecure and he doesnt want there to be an unfair balance in the R, that he has more power/security. Perhaps you can try and impress that on H again, that in these situations you need to do MORE than a 'normal' R, to repair trust?