Has your wife always been a housewife while living in the States? I'm not living in the US. She's been the residence administrator since we got married.
What are you working on now (as in "you can only change yourself")? - Fixing my oft malfunctioning Venusian translator. - Becoming a better listener. - Flipping her attraction switches. - Triggering her LL's
What do you see as your personal goals in your sitch? Good question. The answer after THE BOMB would have been to win her back. Now? I have doubts, just like she has. As I said before... it's complicated.
When it comes to my life I don't make hasty decisions. I 'educate' myself, evaluate all possible scenarios and plan accordingly. Out of ignorance I made the standard errors on BOMB day.
Since then I managed to detach and have entered an introspective phase. I'm drawing up my own 'list of demands' i.e. what I want, need and expect from this R. In the meantime I'm gradually implementing her list of demands (aka spew). Not specifically for Mrs Gno, but because they will help me in a future R with whoever it may be.[/color]
Thank you for opening this thread. Thank you for reading.
I have a lot to ask and share. I'd like to think I have a lot to share and you're free to ask. Keep in mind, I don't have the answers to everything and I make mistakes.
What do you see as your personal goals in your sitch? Good question. The answer after THE BOMB would have been to win her back. Now? I have doubts, just like she has. As I said before... it's complicated.
When it comes to my life I don't make hasty decisions. I 'educate' myself, evaluate all possible scenarios and plan accordingly. Out of ignorance I made the standard errors on BOMB day. I reacted and kept on reacting... to the detriment of the relationship. Somewhere along the road I forgot that I was a man. It was a gradual change and that's why I didn't notice it. I put her needs before my own and compromised my values.
Since then I managed to detach and have entered an introspective phase. I'm drawing up my own 'list of demands' i.e. what I want, need and expect from this R. In the meantime I'm gradually implementing her list of demands (aka spew). Not specifically for Mrs Gno, but because they will help me in a future R with whoever it may be. I have chosen what I think is acceptable to change and rejected things I will not compromise on. Hey... beat me up if you want, but I have my standards. Some people on this board call them N.U.T.S.
When the time is right and I feel I'm in a position of strength... and I perceive Mrs Gno is ready to "talk"... we'll talk. Until then I continue to work on myself. The agenda of that 'talk' is still "in progress" and to be determined.
since we got married.